ROLE OF SELF-ESTEEM IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT - PART 2

ROLE OF SELF-ESTEEM IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT - PART 2

"Needing to talk badly about others indicate low self-esteem. That means, "l feel so low that instead of picking myself up, I have to cut others down"

Did you know that while everyone lacks confidence occasionally, people with low self-esteem are always unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time?....

Earlier this week, we started the series on the role Self-Esteem in self or personal development. Today, we will consider another type of Self-esteem.

Low Self-Esteem

^Low Self-esteem is an unhealthy Self-esteem. People with low self-esteem generally lack confidence about who they are and what they can do. This type of Self-esteem mostly affects one's personality development.

^People with low Self-esteem often feel incompetent, unloved and inadequate. They are consistently afraid about making mistakes or letting other people down.

^A major factor of Low Self-esteem however comes from your own mental state. Your inner voice or the thought in your head could be constantly telling you that you are not good enough or do not worth anything. 

^Negative thinking is generally linked to low Self-Esteem.

Below are some characteristics of persons with Low Self-esteem:

♦️Sensitivity to criticism: If you have a low self-esteem, you may be extra-sensitive to criticism, whether from others or yourself. You see it only as reinforcing your flaws and confirming that you are incapable of doing       anything right.

♦️Social withdrawal: Declining invitations to go to a party, or meet up with friends; canceling scheduled plans last minute; and generally not wanting to be be around others are signs of low self-esteem.

♦️Hostility: For someone with low self-esteem, lashing out or becoming aggressive towards others is a defense mechanism. If you feel that you are about to be exposed or criticized, attacking whosoever might criticize you can be a sign of low self-esteem.

♦️Fear of trying: People with low self-esteem may doubt their abilities or worth and therefore avoid challenges.

♦️Fear of judgement: Avoiding activities that involve other people because they are afraid of being negatively judged. People with low self-esteem feel self conscious and stressed around others and constantly look for 'signs' that people don't love them.

♦️Relationship problems: For instance, a person with low self-esteem may tolerate all sorts of unreasonable behaviors from partner because they believe they must earn their love and friendship. They believe they cannot be loved by others.

♦️People with low self-esteem have moments of euphoria when everything is going right for them but when things start to go bad, their Self-esteem drops very quickly.

Other characteristics of persons with low self-esteem can be seen as;

•judging themselves inferior to peers

•using negative words to describe themselves such as fat, ugly or unlovable.

•not believing a person who compliments them.

_"Everyone lacks confidence occasionally, but people with Low Self-esteem are unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time. It takes attention, daily practice and a conscious effort to boost this low self-esteem"_

TO BE CONTINUED...

The Impact Team